I read this little article today on some blog. It tells you what to do with your wedding dress after the event. You can modify the dress to wear it again, it says.
It vaguely reminds me of the movie ’27 Dresses’ where they are all fussing about how you can wear the bridesmaid’s dress again. The thing is – weddings are extravagant affairs in most cultures. And you probably will not use that dress ever again.
And should you even try to?
Weddings are special. More so, the wedding dress. The thought of cutting it up and wearing it to an ordinary cocktail party is just… horrible. If I wore a gown, I’d like to preserve it for tradition. If I wore a sari, I’d like to preserve it for tradition. Maybe I’d pull it out and wear it on an anniversary or pass it on to a very sentimental daughter or daughter-in-law, if that is still the fashion. Maybe I’ll have it framed and put up somewhere. But I wouldn’t want to cut it up.
And I definitely wouldn’t want to wear it on an occasion where it doesn’t make me sentimental. The bridesmaid’s dress, yes. But the wedding gown?
In India, a bride changes anywhere between 2-4 saris for a single ceremony. And then there are those other events like the sangeet, the reception and such. Of all these, the wedding ceremony is the most important and each one of those saris are picked with care. Most women don’t use these saris even for other special occasions. They take out and say ‘this is what I wore for my wedding’ and put it back in the wardrobe.
Would they offer it to their kids? Maybe not. Because in India it is a custom to wear something new at your wedding. Is that tradition or greed? I don’t know. But you generally don’t wear saris worn by someone else. But regardless of its future, the wedding sari is kept aside.
Indian bridal trousseau is getting daring and more expensive. Recently, I saw a bridal skirt that cost somewhere in the six figures. And this is worn for one night (though I would be curious to know how on earth the woman managed to stand in that dress, which weighed about 10 kgs). There is no way to cut it up and make it into different things and we wouldn’t even consider it.
It isn’t the price you pay for the dress. It is the memories attached to it. And call me a sentimentalist, but I just would not want to cut that up.